In today’s society, the free association of men and women continues. As a result, many men and women are making fun of each other by transgressing the limits of the Sharia to present themselves as modern. Some want to know – Is it haram to touch a girl?
In their language, it is a handshake. They are doing this in blind imitation of perverse tastes and naked civilizations, paying little heed to Allah’s prohibitions and claiming to be progressives.
No matter how much you convince them or how much evidence you show them, they will never accept it. The opposite will call you reactionary, sceptical, disillusioned, alienating, etc.
Is it Haram to touch a girl?
Yes, it is haram to touch a girl. Looking at a girl is haram in Islam and touching a girl is certainly a greater sin than looking at her. This will lead them to a bad relationship. In turn, this is likely to involve them in adultery.
And Islam always wants to keep Muslims safe and peaceful. So if a boy touches a girl then it will be haram. It should be remembered that if a boy shakes hands with a girl, it is forbidden.
Making friends with relatives such as cousins, brothers-in-law, maternal aunts, cousins, aunts, uncles, etc. is easier than drinking water from these people. If they had foresight to see how terrible the act was in the eyes of the Shari’ah, they would never have done it.
Touching a girl is haram in hadith
The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
لَأَنْ يُطْعَنَ فِي رَأْسِ أَحَدِكُمْ بِمِخْيَطٍ مِنْ حَدِيدٍ خَيْرٌ لَهُ مِنْ أَنْ يَمَسَّ امْرَأَةً لَا تَحِلُّ لَهُ
“Surely it is better to drive an iron nail into the head of one of you than to touch a woman who is not lawful for him”.
Undoubtedly, it is hand-me-down. For example, the Messenger of Allah, may God bless him and grant him peace, said:
«الْعَيْنَانِ تَزْنِيَانِ، وَالْيَدَانِ تَزْنِيَانِ، وَالرِّجْلَانِ تَزْنِيَانِ، وَالْفَرْجُ يَزْنِي »
“Two eyes commit adultery, two hands commit adultery, two feet commit adultery and the private parts commit adultery”.
Who is more holy than the Messenger of Allah? But he said,
إِنِّي لَا أُصَافِحُ النِّسَاء
“I don’t flirt with women”.
He also said,
لا أمس أيدى النساء
“I don’t touch women’s hands”.
Ayesha Radiyallahu ‘Anha said,
«لاَ وَاللَّهِ مَا مَسَّتْ يَدُ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَدَ امْرَأَةٍ قَطُّ، غَيْرَ أَنَّهُ بَايَعَهُنَّ بِالكَلاَمِ»
“By Allah, the hand of the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, never touched the hand of a foreign woman. He used to take their Bay’at by the verbal sentence”.
So those who threaten to divorce their wives if they don’t get along with their friends while wearing modern clothes, beware. It is important to know that touching a girl with or without a covering is haram in both cases.
A boy touching a girl sins Jina
Not only is it haram for a boy to touch a girl, but intentionally looking at a stranger or listening to her, and advancing towards her in any way with a slight thought, will all be part of his sin (Bukhari, Muslim, Mishkat ha/86). ).
So one must guard oneself from this sin. It is obligatory for every Muslim man and woman to always be careful not to face such a situation even inadvertently.
It is forbidden to touch any girl?
One thing that needs to be clarified here is that if you touch your wife it is not haram. Although your wife is a girl. Your wife’s body is legal for you. So you can touch any part of his body.
In this way, if you touch the body of your mother or sister, it will not be haram for you. But in the case of mother and sister, you can touch them in places where they are commonly seen like hands or feet but not their private parts. It will be forbidden for you.
Ruling on touching a dead girl
Those who are lawful to touch while alive, in most cases it is lawful to touch them even after death. Men can touch dead men and women can touch dead women.
Ayesha (RA) said that when Sahabi Uthman Ibn Majoon died, Nabiji (SAW) kissed him while crying. (Sunan Abu Dawud: 3163) It is further narrated from Aisha (RA), that Abu Bakr (RA) kissed him after the death of the Prophet (PBUH). (Sahih Bukhari: 4457)
Similarly, it is permissible for women and men to see and touch their mahram dead men and women, as much as it was permissible to see and touch them while they were alive.
However, there is disagreement among scholars as to whether a husband can touch his dead wife or not. According to Imam Abu Hanifa (RA), after the death of the wife, her marital relationship with her husband is severed. So it is not permissible for a husband to touch or kiss a dead wife. However, it is permissible for the husband to see the dead wife’s body.
However, if the husband dies, the wife can touch him, and kiss him. Because after the death of the husband, his relationship with the wife does not end completely. Her relationship with her husband ends completely after the days of the wife’s Iddat have passed. This is why it is not permissible for women to get married during the Iddah period.
FAQs
Is it haram to touch a girl before marriage?
Yes, it is Haram to touch a girl before marriage. Thus looking at a girl before marriage and talking to her unnecessarily is haram. Even if it is for marriage purposes. Because it will encourage them towards various types of bad culture and filth, wickedness and stupidity.
Is it haram to touch a man?
Yes, it is forbidden for a girl to touch a man. But that girl can touch any part of her husband. In this way, his father and brother or those with whom marriage is prohibited can touch their hands, feet, and faces. It will not be unlawful for him. And if a man touches the body of a man, it will not be lost either.
It is forbidden to hug a girl?
Yes, of course hugging a girl is forbidden. Because it is a more serious crime than touching him. We have already discussed that it is forbidden to touch a girl without any bad intentions. If a girl is hugged by a boy, there is a strong possibility that their lust will be aroused, so it is haram. But a boy can hug his mother and a girl can hug her father.
Why is it haram to touch the opposite gender?
Just as there are differences between men and women in terms of friendship, there are also differences in their physical structure. There are no restrictions in Islam on the general communication and association of men and women. But there are restrictions on special relationships and associations.
Islam has encouraged people to form friendly relations with people of different societies and cultures if mutual goodwill and behaviour are maintained.
There is no restriction on mutual communication in the manner described above. But physical intercourse is prohibited. A man cannot under any circumstances touch a mahram or anyone to whom he may be married.
Men and women are required to interact in social relations if necessary, but the provision is that women must wear appropriate clothing and speak in a manner prescribed by Islam. And under no circumstances can one go to a secluded place without the presence of a third person.
