Love is not the same as like. It is Haram to love Someone before marriage. But no like. So what does it say – Is it Haram to like Someone? Because liking is a simple task. And love is deeper than that.
Love before marriage is a foreign, shameless, and naked culture. World love is the current form of the past conspiracy to destroy the Muslim youth. His first step is to like. Today, a deadly effort is being made to mislead and demoralize the entire Muslim youth by subculture in the name of culture, barbarity in the name of civilization, evil, and iniquity.
The evolution of time has brought us a cultural disaster today. Muslims today are losing their own culture and adopting the culture of others.
Today, love means illicit intercourse, audacity, and promiscuity among young men and women, which Islam does not condone in any way. According to Islam, every adult man and woman must observe the veil.
Islam does not legalize any relationship between a man and a woman before marriage. Be that as it may. Meetings, exchanging letters, and talking to each other are impermissible and grave sins. Numerous Quranic verses and hadiths have been described in this regard.
Is it Haram to like Someone?
No, It is not Haram to like Someone. You can enjoy your father, mother, brother, and sister. However, it is forbidden to like Someone as a boyfriend or girlfriend.
Likes are relative. It is the result of being attracted to the opposite sex. People cannot control themselves when it comes to liking. As people had no control over the matter, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) divided the turn of his wives and said,
‘O Allah, I have tried to be fair as much as possible, and reprimand me for that which is not within my power (i.e. more love for a wife). Don’t.’ [Sunan Tirmidhi: 3/185, Hadith No. 1140, Musannaf Ibn Abi Shaiba: 4/414] However, love does not mean that it is illegal. Some love is desirable in Shariah. Shariah has encouraged it.
Type of like Someone
Like Halal
Halal like is the love of husband and wife. Liking between husband and wife is sacred and desirable. Islam has given great importance to this.
The Prophet (PBUH) used to like his wives. He showed kindness to them, And He tried to win their hearts. He used to have fun with them. Hadith Sharif says, ‘The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) raced with Hazrat Ayesha (RA).’ He showed the game of Abyssinians in the mosque with Ayesha. He said, ‘He is a perfect believer whose character is beautiful; the best among you is the one who is best to his wife.’ [Riyadus Salihin, 1/197]
The real purpose of marriage is peace, love, and kindness. In the hadith, the Prophet (PBUH) said, ‘If a husband looks at his wife with kindness and love, then Allah Ta’ala looks at him with kindness and mercy.’
This hadith implies that loving one’s wife and showing mercy to them is an integral part of Islamic Shari’ah. Every wife wants love from her husband. Husbands should show love and kindness to their wives.
Many biological needs are fulfilled by marriage. However, it is not limited to material matters. Instead, the primary purpose of marriage is to build a loving and emotional family system between husband and wife.
Haram Like
Today, in our society, the immoral relationship between young men and women before marriage and the creation of likes is entirely Haram in the eyes of Islam. Islam never supports such love and liking each other.
It’s a sexually driven thing. Young men and women are bound by love and like to perpetrate brutality. Love ebbs and flows when the sexual urge fades. But if the love for each other is only hidden in their hearts, and they do not violate the Shariah while expressing their love, then there is no harm in that love.
The hadith states, ‘Whoever loves someone, hides it, keeps himself pure, and dies in this state will attain the status of martyrdom.’ [Kanjul Ummal: 30/74] The most important thing is that Allah will reward him for keeping himself pure.
But if one indulges in illegal activities due to love, it is Haram. It is a mental illness that needs urgent treatment.
How do you like Someone in a Halal way?
If there is love and liking between a boy and a girl and they are waiting for marriage, the parents should give importance to the child’s relationship. It is better to marry them without considering the minor issues and without causing separation between them.
Rasulullah SAW said, ‘There is nothing better than marriage between two men and women bound in love.’ If we look at this hadith’s context, it becomes more apparent to us.
A man came to the Messenger of God and said, I have an orphan girl. Two men want to marry her. One is poor; the other is rich. But the orphan girl loves the poor man and wants to marry him.
Hearing his words, the Prophet said, ‘What can be better than marriage between two people bound by love?’
Why is it Haram to like and like Someone?
Liking and loving Someone is forbidden in Islam because Islam is a practical religion. Falling in love with Someone is a natural thing. Islam encourages this natural matter to conform to Shari’ah.
So that children cannot indulge in any illegal activities. Most parents put a wall between two people in love for little reason or on the pretext of protecting their lineage. As a result, they put themselves and their children in danger. Many children are stubborn.
They cannot accept their parents’ decision and choose a different life. Many times, they opt for suicide by declaring rebellion against the decision of their parents. Besides, when parents force their family decisions on the child, they feel helpless.
After being separated from the family, he commits a heinous crime like divorce. In other words, when a child in a family is forced to do something or their decisions and emotions are entirely disregarded, then terrible inhuman faults like stubbornness, jealousy, cruelty, etc., are mastered in their subconscious mind.
And they don’t hesitate to apply it to their parents, siblings, and lives. If there is a loving and caring atmosphere in the family, then the children of that family can rise above the ugly human instincts and practice morality.
Then, it becomes easier to decide by mutual agreement. Many people become addicted to drugs because they cannot bear the stress of not having loved ones. They are also involved in various criminal activities.
Last word
It is known from various drug treatment centers that many drug addicts take drugs in the initial stage because of failure in love or not getting married to the person of their choice. Gradually, it becomes an addiction. To collect drug money, some people commit robbery and extortion.
For this reason, instead of making family status or prosperity and poverty the main criterion, religion should be the criterion. If there is no significant difference in religious character between the two, it is better to arrange the marriage instead of rejecting the relationship.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, ‘When proposals come to you of whom you are satisfied and sure about their religion, then you decide to marry them. If you don’t do this, sedition, corruption, and anarchy will spread in the world.’
